Change; Family Counseling and The Croods
This weekend I had a chance to see The Croods with my family and spend some much needed bonding time which I am going to reframe as MY family counseling time. As a therapist I spend a LOT of time counseling my kids, family, in-laws, friends. It is an occupational hazard and has gotten me into trouble at times. The truth is, I can't be a Mom (or wife, or friend, or daughter) and a therapist at the same time. Therapeutic elements enter almost every aspect of my life and I recognize that as an occupational hazard for all of us.
My children had been asking about the Croods for the a while and I was very happy to take them as I am always looking for things to motivate them to be better and do better so I use the movies as a "carrot". So unto The Croods...It was a great movie filled with themes of family and change; it really spoke to me in a way that I could understand because we are all different and experience life as unique individuals. The way in which we view life colors our ENTIRE existence; The father figure in The Croods was fearful and refused to accept change until his world is LITERALLY falling apart. It takes a newcomer to his world to encourage change and make him see that although change is painful, we grow from it and become better individuals ONLY if we can reframe that change as helpful and useful. Therapy and counseling teaches us to use our life experiences as tools to dig deep within ourselves and come through with something bigger than we thought we could be.
That divorce that ripped out your soul? We reframe that as a learning experience to get to know yourself better and what REALLY makes you happy in the long term as well as learning what to accept or not accept when it comes to relationships. Each person has different wants and needs and counseling helps to focus these needs so you don't waste time if you don't want to.
Your child that is giving you a problem? Therapists work on identifying their learning and communication style. If your child is visual, you cannot communicate with him/ her in the same manner as someone that is auditory/ kinesthetic. We work with setting appropriate expectations and giving appropriate rewards in a frequency that works for YOUR child.
Hate your boss? There is a reason that has nothing to do with your boss but instead is your own sense of powerlessness in the employer/ employee dynamic. We ask in our sessions what small steps you can take TODAY to restore your sense of POWER in this relationship and others.
Counseling is about change and counselors have existed since the beginning of time supporting and encouraging this change. So when you see the Croods look for the counselor in the film and think of how you can make changes in your life today?