Crisis Counseling: Focus=Intensity
Often when I am called into a case I find that the situation is very acute. The child, individual, couple and/ or family have developed and maintained a behavior pattern that is so difficult to break that it appears hopeless. I’ll hear “Fix him!” and parents give a list of 20 things the child/ teen must change immediately! "Fix her! She doesn't listen."
We’re human, we all want things yesterday however, I encourage parents to reconsider diluting their efforts and rather encourage them to focus on two or three specific behaviors that they would like to change.
For right now, close your eyes and think about a situation in your life that you are committed to changing. Think about those actions that will support this lasting change and think about that ONE step that you can do RIGHT NOW to put you in the right direction.
If you are working with a loved one or a child it might be responding to an instruction after no more than two prompts. Sounds small right? But I can tell you from personal experience that this is not that easy and we all get frustrated, when you get frustrated take a mental health break, go to the bathroom, drink some water, calm and center yourself so that you can model the behavior that you want to see in your child/ loved one.
Recognize crisis counseling as the first step in your journey towards change for yourself and your loved one. If you value that first step, make plans to continue this growth and maximize this opportunity. Commit yourself to change, burn the ships and don't look back.