Managing Anxiety: In this life, we all face moments that challenge our sense of self-reliance and autonomy. Recently, a personal health setback offered me an unexpected perspective on the delicate balance between independence and vulnerability. We become vulnerable while relying on others. As a staunch advocate for self-empowerment in my practice, this experience was humbling. It reshaped my understanding of strength and resilience later in life.
The Taste of Humility: Navigating Emotional Turbulence
Confronting health issues or any form of dependency can feel like swallowing a bitter slice of humble pie. It’s a reminder of our inherent vulnerability and the fragility of our being human. This realization often triggers hidden emotions, from anger and frustration to anxiety and depression. The loss of control can lead us to a state of despair. It can strip away our hope and energy and leave us feeling powerless and voiceless.
Understanding Vulnerability and Anger: A Reflection of Powerlessness
Anger often arises from this feeling of impotence. It may manifest in various aspects of our lives, but the roots of anger lie deep within our core. This anger stems from unmet expectations, compromised values, and the unsettling realization of our limited control. Recognizing the source of our anger is the first step towards managing it effectively, transforming it from a destructive force into a catalyst for change and self-awareness.
Depression is anger turned inward, leaving a person spiraling, stripped of hope, resources, direction, and even the physical energy to pursue the happiness, sense of connectedness, and fulfillment that all human beings crave.
The Anxiety of Dependency: Living on the Edge
Dependency, especially when involuntary, breeds anxiety. The uncertainty of reliance on others—wondering if they will be there if they will live up to their promises, if our own bodies or circumstances will betray us—creates a pervasive sense of unease. This anxiety keeps us in a constant state of alertness, always bracing for the next disruption, perpetually trying to maintain a semblance of order in the chaos.
Finding Strength in Vulnerability
Yet, within our turmoil lies an opportunity for growth and connection. Accepting support from those around us and allowing ourselves to lean on others without the burden of self-imposed expectations can be a deeply liberating experience. In these moments of surrender, we can truly grasp the value of community, empathy, and the interconnectedness of our human experience.
The Path Forward: Embracing Empowerment and Healing
As we work through issues of dependency and the upheaval it brings, we must remember that our power lies not in isolation but in our ability to connect, share, and grow together. Let us embrace our vulnerabilities, not as weaknesses but as gateways to deeper understanding, compassion, and resilience. In doing so, we can transform our darkest moments into beacons of hope, guiding us toward a future filled with confidence, safety, and passion for life.
Vulnerability and Anger
Anger, in all its complexity, is another form of powerlessness because we have so little control in our lives. When counseling others in the realm of anger management one of the first things I try to do is to determine where the anger is coming from. Anger may MANIFEST in one area of your life but is ORIGINATES in another.
Anger usually generates in the recesses of our hearts and soul. It comes from making decisions we don’t want to make, compromises that feel wrong to us internally, it comes from betrayed trust and disappointment in self and others. Anger comes from things outside our control, and there is always something outside our control. Yet anger is a universal emotion, and knowing where and when to express it is as healthy as learning how to grieve when sorrow hits us.
Anxiety is another emotion that we experience when we are not well and have to depend on others. Will they come? Are they going to do what they say? Will my body betray me? Will their patience run out, and when? Living with anxiety is like living with a loud ticking bomb. You feel like you are always waiting for something to happen or processing what happened. That anxiety tells you that things are out of place, and you are desperately trying to keep it together.
Yet, with all these negative emotions that surround that sense of dependence that is the antithesis of what I practice; I found myself on the receiving end of support from family and friends, and it felt good. The simple act of releasing expectations of self and falling into the comfort of others was refreshing. We all need to eat a little humble pie once in a while. It reminds us we are only human.
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